A guest on the show was Heike Rodriguez, who "teaches Female Ejaculation in West Seattle." Not exactly sure what that entails, but that's not the problem. When she wasn't spewing woo-woo unscientific bullshit, she was claiming women who can't ejaculate have some sort of emotional issues, and maybe were even raped and don't remember it.
One of the very first things she says about female ejaculation is "That's actually a myth. Every woman can do it. Everybody has a G-spot. There's no argument about that. The anatomy is there for pretty much everybody."
Uh, false. Researchers still have no freaking clue what's going on down there. Some think it's the Skene's gland. Some think it's the urethral sponge. Some think it's the thickness of the vaginal wall. Some think it's the internal parts of the clitoris. If scientists in 2011 are still arguing over a bit of human anatomy, it's not as cut and dry as you think.
There's also the fallacy of "Well I've experienced it, therefore it must be there for everyone." Let's assume the G-spot does exist in some women, and it's not just psychological. That doesn't mean it has to exist in everyone. A lot of human traits are variable - height, weight, breast size. And some people completely lack certain structures - for example, people who are born without wisdom teeth.
Now, you're not going to be missing something like a heart or a stomach, but the G-spot isn't exactly necessary for survival. More likely it's the evolutionary side effect of certain male structures, in which case it would be completely plausible that it's variable in women.
But to say all women have it, and as definitively as she did? Outright lie.
To illustrate how little Heike knows about sexual physiology, Dan asks her if female ejaculate is urine, and her response is "It's impossible to pee while you're aroused. It's really simple. You can't pee."
Again, untrue. Both men and women can pee while aroused. Men can't pee when they're close to ejaculating (not the same as arousal) or soon after ejaculation because the bladder neck closes so semen won't go into the bladder. Totally not the same as "You can't pee while aroused."
At this point Dan was tries to call her out on the idea that all women can ejaculate...and that's where it gets even worse. "It has a lot to do with emotions. [...] It has a lot to do with connecting intimacy with sex. It has a lot to do with letting your emotions flow, with being willing to cry when you feel something intensely. And that's not something thats really out there as part of sex. And I think that's why a lot of women can't do it. Because they haven't connected their heart with their vaginas."
Oh bugger off with the new-age hippy bullshit. You have absolutely no evidence to support anything you're saying, and it's insulting to say that women who can't ejaculate are somehow just not being intimate enough.
And when Dan gently calls her out on that, saying that some women are just anorgasmic, she responds that she was anorgasmic because she was raped. And then implies that emotional or sexual trauma are the real reasons why women can't orgasm or ejaculate.
Again, not an ounce of evidence, and perpetuating the mindset that women are somehow damaged if they don't react in a certain way. Sorry, but saying "I don't think women should feel bad" over and over doesn't make them not feel bad when you say the only reason they don't squirt is because they aren't intimate enough or are traumatized.
Even though Dan tried to (too politely) question her claims, I wonder why he even had her on the show to begin with. I thought something smelled fishy when she said "If it's really painful, then maybe some emotional pain needs to be released." Yes, "energy." It must be "released," or something. A quick glance at her group's website doesn't list any sort of credentials for her. The only "credentials" she mentions on the show is being able to ejaculate (good for you) and being a partner of her "co-facilitator." And the credentials for her "co-facilitator"? He's a former minister with a Masters in Divinity in degree, and "facilitates" stuff like "dreamwork."
If that doesn't set off skeptical red flags, I don't know what will.
So massive fail, Dan. How are you so skeptical about religion, but invited someone like this on your show? Did no one call in that week and you were desperate to fill the air time? I have a feeling there are at least a couple people in Seattle with actual credentials to back up their sexual information that you could have turned to. Hell, people who can use Google are more informed than she was.
I have a feeling you got a lot of angry calls because of her. I hope we get to hear some of them in the next podcast.