"As a black father and adopted white daughter, Mark Riding and Katie O'Dea-Smith are a sight at best surprising, and at worst so perplexing that people feel compelled to respond. Like the time at a Pocono Mountains flea market when Riding scolded Katie, attracting so many sharp glares that he and his wife, Terri, 37, and also African-American, thought "we might be lynched." And the time when well-intentioned shoppers followed Mark and Katie out of the mall to make sure she wasn't being kidnapped. Or when would-be heroes come up to Katie in the cereal aisle and ask, "Are you OK?"—even though Terri is standing right there."Why is it okay for white couples to adopt children of different race, but not vice-versa? White couples seem "humanitarian," while black couples are mistaken for kidnappers. People glorify Angelina Jolie and her Gotta-Adopt-'Em-All strategy, but what if Tyra Banks did this with different races from underprivileged places around the world? ...Ok, Tyra's a horrible example since she's full of crazy, and the idea of entrusting her with multiple children scares me. But I digress. There's a part of me that hopes beyond hope that this can be chalked up to statistics. That is, there are far more white couples adopting black children than black couples adopting white children, so people see it as an anomaly. Unfortunately, I think that's just wishful thinking. I'm pretty sure the dirty looks wouldn't go away even if the adoption rates evened out.
Friday, April 24, 2009
It really irks me when people say we're "post-racial" or "colorblind" now that Obama is president, because it's obviously not true. If you need convincing, here's a good example: